Empathy Over Sympathy: How we react to the suffering of others.

I attended a lecture during my third year of medical school as a part of a joint OB/GYN and Pediatric Grand Rounds on helping mothers through fetal loss. The lecturer asked the audience whether they felt empathy or sympathy, as the healthcare provider in difficult situations such as these. Hands creeped up hesitantly, clearly unsure

I am safe. I am lovable. I am enough.

It’s been said by Cognitive Behavioral Therapists (CBT) that the dysfunction we experience in life can generally be traced back to three core limiting beliefs: 1. I am unsafe (I am helpless, a victim, likely to be hurt, etc.) 2. I am unlovable (I am unwanted, bad, undesirable, likely to be rejected or abandoned, etc.)

Find What Heals

The other day a friend said to me out of the blue, “Jessica, are you happy?” He said it like he meant it–and not in the unspoken I’ll-promise-to-be-interested-in-how-you-are-as-long-as-you-promise-to-keep-everything-but-“good”-to-yourself kind of way. I felt his sincerity and without a moment’s hesitation I answered, “Today? Not a drop.” And it’s true. Today I don’t have any heartwarming

A Response to “Low Self-Esteem, Narcissism & the Need for Perfection”

Below is a response I received to my recent post regarding the continuum of mental health and the intersection of self-worth, narcissism and perfectionism. This woman’s words provide such a powerful example of how the need for perfection sneaks its way into our lives, shaping us–literally (in this case) and figuratively–without us even realizing it. It

Low Self-Esteem, Narcissism & the Need for Perfection

I was sitting at dinner with my boyfriend the other night, talking about our clinical rotations. He’s on surgery right now and I’m on psychiatry. He tells me about colon resections and pancreatitis and I talk about mental illness. I tell him how working on the psych unit has made me realize that there really