I am safe. I am lovable. I am enough.

It’s been said by Cognitive Behavioral Therapists (CBT) that the dysfunction we experience in life can generally be traced back to three core limiting beliefs: 1. I am unsafe (I am helpless, a victim, likely to be hurt, etc.) 2. I am unlovable (I am unwanted, bad, undesirable, likely to be rejected or abandoned, etc.)

Find What Heals

The other day a friend said to me out of the blue, “Jessica, are you happy?” He said it like he meant it–and not in the unspoken I’ll-promise-to-be-interested-in-how-you-are-as-long-as-you-promise-to-keep-everything-but-“good”-to-yourself kind of way. I felt his sincerity and without a moment’s hesitation I answered, “Today? Not a drop.” And it’s true. Today I don’t have any heartwarming

The “Self” in Self-Care

The word “self-care” probably brings up thoughts of things like manicures, trips to the spa, kicking up our feet and zoning out in front of the TV. All of these things are great and often necessary tools for relaxation, but ultimately we’re controlling our external state in order to manipulate our internal state. Wouldn’t it